There is not one thing that withholds you from your life as much as living in other people’s heads.
When you operate with the unconscious belief that to experience love is to earn it from others,
You exist to construct an image of who you are rather than the reality of who you might be.
You heal from this when you come to understand that you cannot truly control how you are seen, you can only project.
You assume.
What you imagine others see is more telling of your subconscious psychology than any external perception.
Understanding this unlocks wisdom about who you want to be.
Rather than trying to get other people to see you a certain way,
Ask yourself to actually become that way in real time.
That is the difference between grazing the surface of life, and diving all the way in.
If you are consistent in offering yourself loving thoughts,
You begin to form a sanctuary around yourself.
You begin to become your own refuge.
You start to build a belief system rooted in your own certainty.
The world and its opinions become less and less convincing as your foundation is built independently of how you’re perceived, consumed, and responded to.
You begin to understand that your experience of yourself is a sovereign thing;
It is not hinged on how much you can be affirmed or appreciated.
In that, you begin to form a wall of armor around yourself not one that does not let love in,
But one that is discerning about what is true, what is worthwhile, and what is allowed to enter.
